Lazy self entitlement gets you no where.

I just can't understand why some people are so entitled. Like the the whole world owes them something.

We have all been hurt. We've all went through hard time. We've all been a victim of some circumstance.

At some point, we've had to either make the choice to either get up and move forward with our life, make our choices, and have our own victories- Or change nothing, and expect everyone to pity us, and constantly live in a state of self pity and just accept the hand outs.

I chose the first. Guess what. IT'S HARD WORK. There's a word so many people are uncomfortable with. Work. It takes work to have success in anything! The benefit of success out weighs anything that might come from a place of pity.

I chose to grow learn and make different choices from my past hurts and mistakes. Instead of wallering in a puddle of entitled self pity.

Yes we need support from family and friends sometimes. And sometimes it's because of them that we got from point A to point B. But to sit back and expect everyone to give you hand outs and certain allowances just because they feel sorry for you is just down right wrong.

Now, this can translate to many other things as well. For the sake of politics I wont go in to "living off the government your entire life" part of the entitlement rant.

Because I may be going through a hard time in my life, does not in anyway give me the right to ever treat people with dis-respect and expect them to carry me for much longer than the initial boost of support! It doesn't give me the right to sit back and let everyone else do my dirty work while I do nothing.

The victim roll is only valid for a short amount of time. Earn some respect from yourself, and others by getting up off your rear and making life choices that will only further you down the road of success......Instead of expecting someone to carry on their back.

This is something I see so much of, and it bothers me to no end. I can empathize with people who are in hard times. I can. But I can not understand not making changes to make my situation different, instead of just wondering why I'm doing circles, and pushing people away-- We can only drain people so much.

Stop being emotionally lazy! Face it. Fix it.

I thought maybe if I blogged about it, and took a look at it that it would get it off my chest. I have to be respectful and considerate of others' feelings. I don't want to intentionally ever offend people. But the truth (which a lot of people know nothing about) be told, people who aren't facing the issues, are the ones the most easily offended! And are the most offensive to those around who want to help.

Work hard for those relationships, that job, the family- whatever it is they are worth it! If nothing else is earned for the hard efforts, self respect and self worth is.

This means concoction of selflessness, TRUTH, and hard work are involved. Some things in life can not just be handed to you. Self respect and worth included.

We can't act one way, and expect the results we say we want.

I want to be skinny and healthy----if I sit around eating twinkies watching all my children all day I'll never be either of the two.

I have to look at myself in the mirror, face the truth, and then fix it.

I've learned that no one owes me anything! If I am a certain way, it's because of choices I've made! I do not expect someone else to make me happy, or skinny, or content, or healthy----- These are all things I can chose to change. Somethings in life I can not, and do not have control of. That's called life! What I do have control of is the way I CHOOSE to deal with it. And then do just that. DEAL WITH IT. Sitting it on the back burner will only make me emotionally lazy, fat and unhealthy!

End rant.

Facing the truth about obesity.

You know me by now. I'm very passionate about making a healthy life for myself, and my family. I would also LOVE to change the world, and the views we have on our health.

I was inspired to blog about Americans' addicition to food. Especially fast food. It's quite sad actually. I decided that I needed to do some research on the matter before blowing it up!

This too, is convicting to me! - I am not obese, but I do try, and will continue to try harder, to raise my child in a healthy environment....Even when society is pulling her to the greasy side! I will continue to slowly change my eating habits.   For the most part, they are good. They can always be  better!

It's even sad what even our schools serve as a " well balanced" meal...

 I then, in the same day as being inspired, receive an email from a friend and fellow blogger Ashley, saying that she came acrossed this blog that had to do with obesity, and suicide that I might be interested in. (Says it reminds her of something I would post...me?) My ears perked, and I got to my computer and looked it up immediately!
* I quickly recognized that this lady is also involved with the same running group I am! small world!!

I was stunned beyond words after reading the enrtry. I felt like, it should be shared. I got her permission to share the blog, and want to.

 We have to have to have to get out of this rut! We're only killing ourselves slowly. One french fry at a time..

Warning : this blog post will be offensive and possibly painful to some.  It will deal with suicide and obesity.  If either of those two topics are painful for you, I recommend you read no further.
I discovered today that once again, there is an Oklahoman participating in Biggest Loser.  The fitness minded side of me shouted in joy at another Oklahoman attempting to change their life.  The other half of me hung my head in embarrassment for our state.  You see, this past year when the Biggest Loser did a casting call for their new season, they visited 15 cities, one of which is Oklahoma City because their producers have determined it to be one of America’s Fattest Cities.
These producers are not alone.  In 2010, Oklahoma was named the 6th fattest state in the United states.  In addition, we rank 45th in the nation for overall health of our population.  But Oklahoma isn’t alone.  If you look at the map of obese states, you’ll find that the Midwest is filled with high obesity rates and high rates of complications of obesity. 
Now, if you look at the leading causes of death according to the Centers for Disease Control, you will find that the top 10 are made up of Heart disease, cancer, stroke, Chronic lower respiratory disease (Emphysema, asthma, etc.), Accidents, Alzheimer’s disease, diabetes, Influenza and Pneumonia, Nephritis (kidney diseases) and Septicemia.  Currently, obesity is the #2 cause of preventable death in the United States, but that may not be for long.  It is rapidly approaching tobacco as the number one cause of preventable death.
Preventable.  Let’s look that one up.  Preventable – able to be prevented.  Prevent – to keep from occurring.  So, if you have a someone who is doing something that is preventable, that means they are doing it intentionally, correct?  Now, if someone is intentionally causing death to someone else, that would be considered what?  Manslaughter?  Murder?  But what if they are intentionally causing death to themselves?  Let’s define another word.
Suicide – the act or an instance of taking one’s own life voluntarily and intentionally especially by a person of years of discretion and of sound mind.
Now when most people think about suicide, they think of sudden death.  And the reactions to a suicide or a suicide attempt are broad.  We’ve all heard someone say that it’s selfish.  That the person leaves behind a mess that they never have to deal with.  There is definitively a stigma associated with those sudden, awful suicides. 
But what about when the suicide is slow.  A person who has been warned by doctors time and time again that their lifestyle is leading to their death.  The father who continues bad eating habits knowing that it is leading him to a path of death, maybe not immediately, but eventually.  Why is it horrible for someone to take their life suddenly yet acceptable for someone to do it slowly?  We’ve “accepted” obesity.  It’s no longer acceptable for an airline to charge for 2 seats.  It’s discriminating.  We see more and more lawsuits against companies who have discriminated against overweight individuals.  Nobody calls them selfish.  Nobody reminds them of the mess they are creating.
Now someone is probably reading this and getting offended.  “What mess?” they are angrily asking.  Let me tell you.
The father whose daughter has to take care of him because his legs have been amputated due to Type II diabetes brought on by his obesity.
The mother whose grandchildren’s last memories at Christmas is of her with oxygen tanks because she has congestive heart failure and can’t get out of bed.
The wife who each day prays that today isn’t the day that her husband’s heart stops because of high cholesterol and high blood pressure brought on by his obesity.
You see, with fast suicide, the mess happens after the death.  But with slow suicide, you watch your family die over months and years. 
And of course, you will have those individuals who are justifying obesity by using the argument that there are healthy obese people.  Sure.  They may be healthy today.  No diabetes, no hypertension, no complications.  But fast forward 10, 20, 30 years and lets see how many of today’s obese individuals have died of complications from their weight.  To me, that argument makes as much sense as someone saying that they’re healthy while chain smoking Marlboro Reds. 
Now, let me say this.  There are medical conditions that cause obesity.  But, they are extremely rare.  Only 1% of obesity cases have valid medical causes, and only one disease, Cushing’s syndrome, cannot be completely treated.  It effects 1 individual per million.  Other causes of weight gain and obesity, such as Thyroid disease, PCOS, and depression can typically be treated or assisted.  For 99% of the population, obesity is caused by consuming more calories than burned.  Overeating,  Indulging.  Lack of activity. Choice. 
And yet we’re supposed to accept it, right?  Especially here in the middle of the Bible belt of the Midwest.  Where we preach on Sunday that suicide is wrong, yet succumb to gluttony as soon as the service is over.  When are we as a society going to wake up?
Yes, I am on a rant today.  But I am sad.  This hits close to home.  No mother, father, child, grandchild, wife, or husband should have to put themselves through the hell of watching someone die, especially when it is self imposed, be it fast death or slow death and do nothing about it!  I can’t imagine a more selfish act than to care so little about your loved ones to do nothing to keep them from that pain, yet milions of American’s, almost 1/3 of the population, have decided that suicide is acceptable.

When will it stop?

Thank you so much Shawna    for opening my eyes to the tragedy here! We are being held hostage to the processed, greasy, fattening, artery clogging, heart stopping, " quick foods " that are " convenient "

We are writing our own death wishes. If you think it won't catch up to you eventually. Your delusional!  That blood pressure cup will say other wise. That scale will laugh at you. Those lungs that want so hard to breath normal, will scream for help!

One calorie, and one foot step at a time, we really can conqueror this! It's not about being on a "health kick" it's about living an active healthy lifestyle.  Is it easy? Nope. It's a lot easier to drive up through that drive threw window, order some mindless caloric food, toss a bag to the kid in the back, and keep going. That's easy. Is it easy to bury someone you love because they chose THAT lifestyle? Absolutely not! Is it easy to plan your meals, and take a time out from life to actually think about WHAT  you are putting in your body as fuel? Nope.

We have a choice.

Fat does NOT equal happy.

Not for me anyways!


Here's the deal....

I don't usually like to talk about my weight, or post baby weight loss, in fear of someone thinking I'm being narcissistic...  But everyone else seems to be okay with it.

It's one thing to give someone a compliment like " You look great after having a baby!"  Which I do receive..

When I hear comments like " You need to eat more ", "Your too skinny", " Shrimp"  A cashier in the store the other day say " I can help you little girl" ... I'm 25 years old! These kind of comments make me feel like there is something wrong with me. There is no need for it- Growing up I got the " Skinny minnie" and " String bean" jokes....


But, I am healthy. I eat. A LOT. I replenish calories- Meaning, I try to eat more calories that I burn-  I drink whole milk.

I also eat a lot of fresh vegatables and produce. I eat whole grain pasta, rice, cereal and bread. I cook with real butter instead of the tub butter(most of the time). I only own sea salt. Lots and lots of protein. Do I eat occasional- being the word- sugary yummy treats or buttery goodness? Sure I do. In moderation! I very very very rarely eat fast food.I Exercise almost every single day.  My blood pressure is perfect. My resting heart rate is 58. My hair and nails are healthy and growing. I.AM.HEALTHY.  And I'm happy with my body.  I work hard to stay healthy, in return have a lean GOD GIVEN (literally, genetically)  body. I was made this way.... There is nothing wrong with me- Please don't make me feel like there is.

We have this mentality that Fat = Happy. Ask someone who is over weight and see if they are happy.

We have accepted obesity as Normal. So when someone like myself, or my daughter is on the lower end of "normal" everyone assumes we aren't eating right.

I also have a problem with people assuming that I'm not feeding my child correctly. She is an amazing eater. I HATE HATE HATE when she eats fast food! It's very rare, and hardly ever with me. ( and if it is, we get milk and apples with nuggets instead of the fries and pop) But the way I look at it, is fast food is poison for her little developing body and she is worthy of more nutrious things. I want her to know the is better than that. She's worth the time and effort that it takes to prepare wholesome food for her...... I don't want her to deal with any confident issues, as I have, because she will be small. There is no reason to give her any insecurities about something that she can't help.

She has been checked out properly by her doctor. She's perfectly healthy as well!

Our kids are worth so much more than we are "showing" them. Please get a grasp on that!

Fat is not happy!

And just because we're small doesn't mean that we should be "dis-credited" for anything.

I want to instill in her  the confidence that most kids (and adults!) lack. She is beautiful. She is strong, and happy. Her body ( even if it's not like everyone else) is perfect. She eats better than everyone else too! What better gift could I give my child, than a life time of healthy habits!

I too am still working slowly towards a healthier lifestyle, little by little. I want to be around for her, and healthy for her when she needs me.

Don't assume that b/c we don't look like the majority of society, that it's wrong.


Thank you.

I am fixing to post another blog that really touched me and opened my eyes about obesity in our society. Both of these will probably offend someone-if that's the case, click the X in the top right corner- But this is something dear to my heart. It's something I'm obviously passionate about.

We've GOT  to make changes.